The first and only thing in a whole year that got me putting one foot in front of the other again was the self-discovery 90 minutes’ session with Chris.
After the sudden breakdown in my marriage, a year ago, there has been one blow after another. My life is unrecognisable from what it was. I found out my husband, who I had been together with for 14 years had nearly bankrupted us. We had to sell the beautiful family home we had worked so hard to own, take my sons out of the Independent school they loved and move to a whole new area. These events were stressful enough, but when my closest family then struggled to adjust to me separating with my husband and my relationships with these people started to breakdown, I was on a slippery slope to rock bottom. I began to struggle at work and eventually my body just said, “Enough!”.
What happened next was what I can only describe as a frightening experience, a panic attack, which I considering myself a go-getting, positive person, never thought I would experience. The doctor said I was suffering from anxiety and prescribed me beta blockers. I knew, however, that medication alone, wouldn’t fix everything. I decided that I didn’t want to carry the burden of the past year’s experiences around with me and in all honesty, I didn’t know where to start. I felt completely paralysed, not being able to cope with everything I was trying to juggle. A good friend recommended Chris and I got in touch with him immediately.
Chris was able to see me quickly, which was so important. He was like an emergency service for my mind. We met for a 90-minute session. Chris made me feel at ease immediately and he really is the least judgmental person, which leaves you free to be completely honest. He asked me the right kind of questions, that allowed us to establish where I was at and what the issues were. He helped me to decipher what the most urgent problems were and made me feel safe in putting those other juggling balls, temporarily to one side, so that I could start to pick myself up and take some first steps forward.
It was more than just talking to someone who was not involved in my life…Chris provided me with effective and appropriate strategies, that felt manageable and would have the biggest impact in the short term. After the session, I felt like a weight had literally been lifted off my shoulders. My closest friend commented that I was a different person and for the first time in ages they saw a glimpse of a happier, independent and motivated person.
Chris quickly followed up our meeting with an email that summarised my “homework” for the next 2 weeks. He gave me a toolkit of tasks, exercises and strategies that would help me to achieve the goals we had prioritised. I reread this email a number of times, over the next fortnight and each time it reassured me and helped me to stay focused.
I was also encouraged to contact Chris by email or phone if I was feeling anxious, needed support or had any questions. I took Chris up on this and again, it was like A&E for my life. He responded quickly when I needed reassurance and support. This was the kind of support my friends and family couldn’t provide me with. It got me back on track and feeling positive.
Having been through so much and because the session was so effective, I wanted to continue to work with Chris. At first, I struggled a little with investing in myself, but I knew that no matter how many pairs of shoes, spa days and chocolates I bought, they wouldn’t make these issues go away. It was time to claim my life back, stop carrying the baggage around with me and take steps towards a more fulfilling life and the authentic me. I am now working towards these goals with Chris. I wish I had done this years ago. From being in a very dark place, where I couldn’t see a way forward, my future looks exciting and positive to me now and I couldn’t have started this journey without Chris’ specialist, professional and unique approach to coaching.