Life is a journey, and there may be bumps in the road. That doesn’t mean you should be deflected from where you’re going. As a life coach, my experiences have taught me the value of self-assessment, which is the only true instigator for swerving back onto even ground.
Yet this rarely happens out of the blue. Like anything we want to work on, preparation is half the battle. I want to help you build a personal development plan, righting the wrongs in your sense of fulfilment. These are the steps you should follow to light the path to a better you:
Step 1 – Listing the changes
During my initial session with clients, we put pen to paper, drawing up a list of whatever’s making them distressed or anxious. The human mind is full of colliding thoughts trying to outdo each other, and sometimes seeing the words in front of you is all that’s needed to tone them down. Our fears are much easier to deal with if we can visualise them.
This is where I get to know who my clients are, and what they want out of our time together. The list can solidify how they feel about relationships, phobias, family troubles or work-related stress. It’s the blueprint for tackling each issue directly.
Step 2 – Question and answer
As my clients describe the source of their unhappiness or provide insight into the goals they want to achieve, I will be carefully picking up on body language and facets of their speech. Sensitivity is the basis for a sound partnership, so the next element of the plan involves me addressing a subject, challenging it for more depth or the overall impression it makes on you. This is an important primer for stage 3 because it contributes to the perceived ‘map’ of your mental awareness.
Step 3 – Broadening your territory
I’m a firm believer in NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), and the psychological components of why we think the way we do. Often, cultural and sociological factors, as well as what’s happened to us in the past, lock us into a perception of the world that an be hard to shake.
However, with a little training, you’ll be able to recognise where your mental barriers encounter resistance to new ideas or people. Territories have their limits, but they can widen – by processing everyday life differently, you’ll be able to nullify negative thoughts. My perception of balance and success is complete freedom from limiting beliefs and having the firm values of ‘It’s possible, I can do it, I deserve it.’
Step 4 – Conducting a test run
After a couple of sessions, with home exercises peppered amongst them, most of my clients are ready to put their newfound awareness to the test. One by one, the issues on that initial list can be targeted and dealt with, backed by my neurological training techniques.
I’m always at the end of the phone between sessions. When we meet again, in 90 or 60-minute appointments, you can tell me all about what worked and what didn’t. You might not make all the right improvements first time around, but that’s what a life coach is for: to push you on to a healthy behavioural pattern until it’s second nature. I often tell my clients that the true value is never in the change but in the learning how to.
In short, this personal development plan is my template for long-term success, although it can morph to whatever you’re comfortable with. By gaining perspective on your situation from the very start, my coaching strategy avoids any weak links in the chain. Sign up to receive my Workbook, which goes into more detail about how you can stride confidently towards a happier you.
Until next we speak… be more tomorrow than you are today.